Stay-at-home Mother of Two

http://thestir.cafemom.com/baby/124135/this_is_what_a_stayathome?fb_ref=post_top&fb_source=home_oneline

This is a link to a wonderful article written by aQq stay-at-home mom! I highly recommend reading it!

As you may have noticed I haven't written a blog in some time. I was feeling really judged and was recieving opinions about my life and how I do things that were really unwanted and very unwelcome. I know people were juding me, even if it wasn't said outloud I know they were judging. And thats fine, judge all you want, honestly I probably judge you too. I write about what is real, what is happening in my life. It isn't always rainbows and butterflies as some people make it out to be (or pretend it is). If you don't like the way I'm raising my children or living my life then don't read my blog, and in all honesty I probably disagree with many of the ways you judgers are raising your children and living your life. Everyone is different, everyone has different values, everyone spend money differently, to each their own. I don't want to feel like crap because YOU think I made a wrong decision. I am raising healthy HAPPY children. I do everything for my children, I want them to be invloved in programs, be social and have fun. I also like my children to be well dressed and spoiled. Yes, I would say my children are spoiled, whats it to you! Many people have told me to just relax, stay home a little more. My children HATE being at home, spending the entire day at home is like spending the day in prision. I have dedicated my life to getting my children invovled in numerous activities, and yes it may be stressfull but to see the enjoyment my children get from getting out of the house everyday and experience new things is worth every minute of stress.
Not too many people know what is like to be a stay-at-home mother of two whose husband is away. It isn't always easy, and yes, I usually write a blog when i'm angry or frusterated so it may come across to many that I am ALWAYS stressed and that my life is too much for me. This is not the case. I am fully capable of raising my children and anyone who says their children are perfect little angels are lying. I don't get a break, it is go go go, I know I have made it that way and I don't regret any of it!
The article that I have a link for above is possibly the best article I have ever read. I have had days JUST like the lady who wrote the article, infact my days are usually somewhat close to that! Going to the grocery store and leaving one child in the cart while you put the other in the car, what the hell am I supposed to do let one run all over the parking lot. I worry about people giving me looks for leaving my children in the car while I go and return the cart. Again, what did you want me to do? I have to deal with the completely useless Alberta employees who are incapable of doing their jobs properly. So when my children finally go down for a nap and I think I get a chance to relax, no, I have to sit on the phone and deal with the numerous problems that continally go wrong because of the idiot employees who can get it right the first time.
My house is never clean, (although I am getting better at this). There is always food on the floor, crumbs on the carpet, clumps of cat fur all over the house, toys scattered from one side of the house to the other. I could clean all day everyday and still my house would not be clean.
I get remarks on how I spend my money. How is this anyones business but ours. I know I wrote a blog on a budget that Kelly and I had agreed upon, this is what works for us, everyone has their own budgets and money solutions, we don't need advice, Kelly is the number one money man, he knows his stuff and we have agreed on a budget that is very reasonable. With the amount of money I have I am able to get groceries for the week, diapers, gas, gifts and clothes, there is usually not much leftover. What we buy and how we spend our money is our business, we both like nice things and are willing to pay a little bit extra to get what we want.
And yes, I am going to go back to work eventually. We have been discussing it lately, at this point unless I find a really good job the price of day-care isn't worth it for us. We also feel that is is very important to us to have me at home raising our children. I still don't know what I want to do with my life, I have been looking into options lately, reaserching different careers. So far nothing is speaking to me. I figure I will have to go back to school for a couple of years to add to my degree, just need to find something perfect.
I am learning as I go, the days are getting easier and easier as the kids get older. I am really enjoying life! We have lots of great friends and there is always lots going on. So many wonderful things going on and great things to look forwad to. I hate that I am being judged for what I write, my blog calms me down, if I need to vent I type out a blog and vent. Perhaps now the fursterating parts of my life will be kept off my blog. Consider this my final vent!